“You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you will find your prince.”
And I have been kissing a lot of frogs! I have joked in the past that I’m a chronic dater, and it’s not unlike me to accept dates from just about anyone who asks. I have found that I stay extremely busy that way, often times going on 2 dates a day in order to schedule everyone. The side effects to this hobby are many.
I have gained weight. Think about it, most dates are over a meal and 2-a-days usually mean I’ve eaten out for lunch and dinner. It’s hard to eat healthy when I go out to eat and I don’t know how the food is prepared and I typically suck at portion control because… well, I LOVE food! Also, it’s extremely hard to maintain a fitness program when I’m rushing home from work every day to go on a date.
I don’t always have time for my “real friends” either because I’m so overbooked with dates that I forget to “schedule” girl time or general hang out time with my friends. They don’t like this and neither do I.
It’s hard to develop actual feelings for someone when I am constantly worried about keeping track of what their name is and our dating history so I don’t make a stupid comment that relates to someone ELSE I’ve been dating.
My calendar stays full and sometimes I have to book dates far in advanced. This leaves no room for mood swings. Sometimes I am neither in the mood for the date planned or the person I agreed to go out with. This usually results in a bad date due to my bad attitude. And forget about last minute opportunities that arise! “Hey, I just scored 2 tickets to the hottest concert in town tonight! Wanna go!?” “Oh I’d love to… but I already have plans.”
Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of pros to dating a lot! I am fortunate to have really interesting people in my life who do really interesting things! So I have been exposed to new hobbies, new music, new restaurants, new views on people and life in general, etc. Dating a wide variety of men ensures that I get to do a wide variety of activities! In fact, I feel quite spoiled because I know these are things I wouldn’t get to experience otherwise.
But enough is enough! If I’m on a quest to find true love, then I have to pick better frogs! That means no more accepting dates unless I’m truly interested in the guy! I have “ended it” with a few people I’ve been dating that I see no real future with and I’ve been practicing the art of saying “no” when new ones ask me out! I have narrowed my frogs down significantly in a very short amount of time!
It hasn’t been long since I have started living by my new rules but so far things are working nicely! I have already spent less time eating and more time working out! I finally started to catch up on all those shows taking up space on my DVR too. I have spent more quality time with my friends, as well as my family! And the frog that I have been kissing is very… charming!
